Tenderness and tending
emotionally charged times, ongoing balance, leaning into softness
We are still in the changeable season of spring/poorneet. The wind gusts through our yard, rattling the flyscreens and making whirlwinds of old blossoms and feathers that the chickens are molting. A fine layer of pollen and grit covers our outdoor furniture. Dust and dog hairs blow down the hallway whenever I open a window. Doors slam. I’m jumpier than usual and my skin feels itchy dry.
These are emotionally charged times and the weather stirs us even more. For me, it feels brittle, static-y and overwhelming. I’m often flustered and frustrated with my inability to cope with simple things. Waves of emotion keep crashing over me.
It’s an ongoing balance to navigate with sensitivity and patience…
I have been visualising these emotional waves as something I can surrender to. Sometimes that means being tossed around or swept along, but other times it can feel like being carried and held by oceanic tides.
Practically, I have been exfoliating and moisturising my skin, rinsing and using lubricating eyedrops, dusting-vacuuming-mopping the house, drinking more to stay hydrated. I also lie in the dark with a warm cloth over my eyes, rest with legs up the wall or just pause for a few minutes to still my racing thoughts.
This week my husband unexpectedly flew to the Netherlands to support his mum at a family funeral. I’m feeling destabilised as I notice all the parts of our life that are entwined and adjust to a routine without him. And also, I’m enjoying the spaciousness of finding a rhythm of my own.
I know this time apart will be a big shift for both of us, so I’m tracking the memories and reflections that bubble up.
I’m leaning into softness. Focusing on tenderness and tending. Remembering ‘my body is seasonal and relational’ (from Sophie Strand Make My Healing a Party Everyone Is Invited To).
I’m reminding myself that what irritates me in others is also in me… can I radiate loving kindness, for myself and others?
Inspiration
Treaty "this one is ours, Naarm 2025"
Much Love,
Emily
